So a friend invited me to join this group on Facebook. This sort of female collective for empowerment and all that jazz. I was curious I have to admit. I tend to steer clear of anything too oestrogen-fuelled on the basis it usually turns into an epic bitch fit as menzies sync and well, I can’t be arsed with the drama and the wailing. Sorry ladies, I have my traitor to my sex T-shirt on again today.
So anyway, I joined this group and I have been seeing a lot of posts popping up on my newsfeed and half of them I don’t read because some people need to learn to be concise. This is not Game of Thrones it’s more like a skit from TOWIE and no matter how much you try to talk this up it’s still not worth a epic tome sized post you just cluttered my Facebook life with. Get to the point. What I am noticing about this group is just how many women there are out there that:
- Do not know how to be in any way, shape or form confident;
- That make too many excuses for men that are clearly just not interested in them;
- Read way too much into everything;
- Need to be medicated; and
- Should not be allowed on internet dating sites.
Don’t get me wrong they aren’t all total Fruitcakes but a lot of them are and it really hurts my brain.
Now these women are gorgeous (the uggos are usually the ones with epic self-confidence weirdly), successful and intelligent so why am I reading that they ‘screwed up’ because they sent the wrong response to their man being stressed with work and ‘he will probably never call me again’? Why are these women trying so hard to be perfect for guys that call when they can be arsed and make NO effort at all?
“What do you do when you haven’t heard from a guy you are interested in for 3 days…Radio silence I mean nothing?” types of questions are rife. What do I do? I start talking to a new one. HDJ’s phone never stops beeping (ask the people I live with, I am now having to charge it twice a day.) I don’t sit around thinking that I did something wrong or that he got a better offer, half the time it can be a week or so and I haven’t even realised I haven’t spoken to them until they message me. I like my space, I might be particularly male in that sense.
“I fucked up, I was already sleeping with him but I told him that I like him more than just a friend. Have I scared him off?” Well you were giving him sex with no need for any emotional investment and that’s almost always a bad way to move to white picket fences and a huge rock like Liz Taylor on your finger. My advice, keep your NSS (No strings sex) separate from the one you want to settle down and play house with.
And it goes on. Drama after drama of women who could literally spit out of a window and date whatever guy it landed on trying WAY too hard to be something they think a man wants. Now not being male I can’t definitively answer this but I think a guy wants someone who knows who they are, not constantly second-guessing their actions, what they said and what his reaction (or lack of one means). I’m amazed these women have time to get anything else done.
What I do know is male or female a Tryhard is never sexy!